As I looked out over the audience of my Wealthy Mind, Wealthy Life seminar that I recently taught in San Diego, I saw a group of accomplished men and women 40-55 years old entering their second half of life. They were all financially comfortable, successful, and smart. And yet, like many of us, they were seeking something more: deeper relationships, more growth on a spiritual level, and ways to create more meaning in their lives.
I’m grateful I got to work with this audience. Their desires represent what so many of the people I’ve met through coach trainings and coaching, including myself, feel in the second half of our lives. Even though we may have all that we needed or wanted at this point, a lot of us are searching for a way to make our lives more meaningful. In the second half of life, often people are searching for ways to connect in a deeper way to themselves, to their community, and seeking new ways to grow and learn and to feel they are contributing in some way.
The group I worked with had attained a certain level of success and was questioning, “What is a wealthy life? What defines wealth for me?” Some of this group’s answers were: creating healthy rich relationships, living with passion, contributing, having more inner peace, and following their hearts.
The Six Human Needs
One of the top coaches I trained with and worked with, Tony Robbins, has a great model called the Six Human Needs. The first four are basic needs, and the last two needs are our spiritual needs.
The first need is the need for certainty: safety, security, the feeling that your need for survival are met on the material and financial level.
Our second need is the need for variety: excitement, diversity, challenge, surprise.
The third need includes the feeling of your significance: that you feel unique, important, that you see you’re bringing something unique to your job, your family or community.
Our fourth need is to feel connection and love: to feel intimacy, oneness, bonded, part of a community.
The fifth need is for growth: learning, changing, expanding, stretching outside of our comfort zone.
Our sixth need encompasses our most spiritual desires for contribution, to feel like we’re making a difference, making our mark in the world, that we’re giving back in some way.
So in our middle lives, we’re at a jumping off point. We’re living longer than our parents or grandparents. Often when people reach retirement now, we often have 20-30 years left. What’s next for you? How do you want to use this time? What unique gifts do you have and how would you most like to spend these years?