A leader is someone who has confidence, passion, courage and the vision to inspire others to take steps that they have never taken. They bring out the best in themselves and those around them. In today’s fast changing world, leaders need to find new ways of thinking and working in the global marketplace.
It is important to remember that managing and leading are not the same thing. While a manager may oversee the processes to make the work happen and see that procedures are followed, leaders set the course and inspire those around them to find resources they may never have tapped before. A leader needs vision, they need influence and a lot of patience.
What are the qualities of a Leader?
We know and recognize good leadership qualities when we experience them. Some of these skills are everyday courtesies like knowing someone’s name whenever you meet them. Some are more complex like having the forethought to create a vision that is compelling to everyone who hears it. Sometimes it means having the courage in the face of failure to do something that no one has ever done before. Other times it means knowing when to stand back and allow others to learn for themselves.
NLP and Leadership
NLP is based on the principle that we have all the resources we will ever need within us, even if we do not know how to tap into all of them. Let us consider the elements of NLP in more depth.
Our brain is the bodies super computer and quite simply what we think about is what we create. If we imagine that we are going to not have a good meeting with someone important, it is likely that we will. If, on the other hand, we imagine an excellent outcome from that meeting, it is much more likely that we will behave in a way that will make this happen. NLP teaches us that we can create outcomes that we want by the way that we influence our thoughts. It is our thoughts, not our circumstances, that determines our success. Our external world is a complete mirror of our inner structure. Every thought communicates itself instantly to our physiology and we communicate what we are thinking through subtle and sometimes not so subtle body language. A leader is someone who presents his or herself in alignment in thought, word and deed.
One of the ways we influence our state-of-mind is with the words we use – these words are in the form of thoughts or are spoken. They influence how we feel and consequently how we act. Leaders have mastery over the words they use about themselves as well as the words used to build relationships and communicate their vision to others.
Our lives are run on basic strategies that include sequences of thoughts and behaviors that make up the programs we achieve and results that we create – good or bad. We have strategies for how we make decisions, how we motivate ourselves, how we form friendships, how we keep ourselves on track and how we stay focused. And we also have strategies for how we sabotage ourselves when we are close to success, how we get angry, how we lose our way and how we upset people. The more as leaders we understand these often unconscious strategies the more effectively we can choose to continue with the successful strategies, make modifications or even to install new ones that support us in creating more of what we want in our personal and professional lives.
Leading is about inspiring yourself and others to work towards a vision and mission and purpose in which the team believes in instead of telling people what to do. It is about finding unique ways of using your talents instead of using old processes (or programs) from the past. NLP is concerned with developing our awareness of others and ourselves so that we each find our own way to do what we want to do. More than anything, NLP is a way of continually learning that what works today will be different from what worked yesterday and what will work tomorrow.
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